What is Ralph’s best option to bolster relations with his sons, while he repairs relationship with former spouse: by way of using Option Solving?

Your editor’s friend Ralph from Eire opted to reach out to his former spouse’s sister, based on his recent option solving exercise. This action didn’t reveal anything untoward with former spouse, since her sister also experienced cool relations there even though they live only doors apart. Ralph therefore decided to bide his time for things to turn around and, during the meantime, to bolster relations with his two sons.  He therefore decided to move ahead with a fresh round of option solving to reveal his best near term option for bolstering those relations.

He subsequently put together a fresh question as follows: “What is Ralph’s best option to bolster relations with his sons, while he repairs relationship with former spouse; considering 1) the distances involved, 2) communication with one son is strong the other weak, 3) demonstrate continued emotional bond, and 4) need to find hook for former spouse?” It’s appropriate for Ralph to focus on just these four considerations to reduce his complexity in any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being many other possible considerations out there.

Ralph was then encouraged, again, to choose two appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His ultimate two new bookends turned out to be: “Take a laissez faire approach” Life’s getting shorter;and “Demand phone call with former spouse” Likely to backfire. You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put them out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now nudge Ralph’s intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

He ultimately came up with his six most realistic options – A thru F – after additional thought. Now he was positioned to pursue emotional distancing beforehe proceeded with any outcome decision. He would then review these declared options, perhaps after 2 hours, later in the day, or first thing the following morning, before arriving at an optimal conclusion. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they all look quite relevant, Ralph was initially particularly intrigued by – Option B: Discuss what both sons want for Xmas. Ralph decided he would sleep on it until the following morning and then act accordingly. He would stick with whatever option his intuition chose to avoid unhelpful confusion.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is President Biden’s best option to turn around his approval ratings?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

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What is best way for Ralph to re-set personal relationship with former spouse: by way of using Option Solving?

Your editor’s friend Ralph from Eire is concerned about an apparent silence from former spouse during recent times; notwithstanding there are always ongoing normal needs and issues with their two sons also in Eire. Ralph has been constrained from visiting them owing to the Covid virus and continued spikes in that country – even though Ralph has been appropriately vaccinated. He has been chewing over his best course of action and decided to utilize Option Solving to indicate his optimum solution.

With that technique in mind, he put together his initial question as follows: “What is best way for Ralph to re-set personal relationship with former spouse; considering 1) they haven’t seen each other in a long time, 2) important to continue contact for sons’ sake, 3) circumstances may have changed for former spouse, and 4) she is maybe frustrated at his limited family interaction due to Covid?” It’s appropriate for Ralph to focus on only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being many other possible considerations out there.

Ralph was then encouraged to choose two appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His ultimate two bookends turned out to be: “Ride out the possible storm” May deepen the trough;and “Send some sort of contact ultimatum” May exacerbate the situation. You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put them out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

He ultimately came up with his six most realistic options” – A thru F – after additional thought. Now he was positioned to pursue emotional distancing beforehe proceeded with any outcome decision. He would then review these declared options, perhaps after 2 hours, later in the day, or first thing the following morning, before arriving at an optimal conclusion. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they all look quite relevant, Ralph was initially particularly intrigued by – Option A: Contact  her sister for advisory. Ralph decided he would sleep on it until the following morning and then act accordingly. He would stick with whatever option his intuition chose to avoid unhelpful confusion.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is Ralph’s best option to pursue with his sons, while he repairs personal relationship?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

What is my best date option for travelling to UK in light of Covid and health situation: by way of using Option Solving?

Your editor has been considering travelling to UK to visit his sons for quite some time, although has been constrained from making a decision in light of COVID trends-situation both in the UK and US. The current early October upward trend in both countries makes for sobering and cautious decision-making con.  It was therefore appropriate to consider his current range of options.

With that in mind, he developed a question as follows: “What is my best date option for travelling to UK in light of Covid and personal health situation; considering 1) current COVID trends in UK and US –Fall season(?), 2) don’t wish to end up spending money on 10 quarantine, 3) budget is tight and health issues, and 4) Robin-Simon want earliest date for him to visit?” It’s appropriate for your editor to focus on only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being many other possibilities out there.

He then proceeded to choose two appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His ultimate two bookends turned out to be: “Postpone idea for 6 more months” Robin disappointment and age clock ticking;and “Set date come-hell-or-high-water” Get stuck with airfare and quarantine expense. You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

He ultimately came up with his six most realistic options” – A thru F – after additional thought. Now he was positioned to pursue further emotional distancing beforehe proceeded with the outcome. From there he would be further positioned tomake an optimum choice on next steps…perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they all look quite relevant, your editor was now initially particularly intrigued by – Option F: Clarify health issue before making any decisions. The pictograph now offered some other potential optimum alternatives – keep option A: Monitor trends on daily basis for leveling indicator- UK government website in mind, too.He can also now consider pursuing any of the other options over time.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is the best way for Ralph to reset a personal relationship?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

Further Peel the Onion: What is my best option for continuing to enlist Ken’s – Literary Agent – optimum assist: by way of using Option Solving?

Your editor ultimately decided to pursue subsequent Peel the Onion – Option DD: Seek his wholehearted support for these two ideas – his support note and GoFundMe – or alternatives – from last time.With that complete, your editor then took a further sub-sub-option step to reveal possibilities to further retain Ken’s support…hence the following “Further Peel the Onion” exercise as follow-on.  

With that in mind,  he created a “Further Peel the Onion” question as follows: “What is my best option for continuing to enlist Ken’s – Literary Agent – optimum support : through Sub-Option DD – Seek his whole-hearted support for these two ideas or alternatives, considering:  1) Covid hobbled publishers near-term, 2) need to re-enliven his enthusiasm, 3) he has likely scooped up other more promising authors during the meantime, and 4) encourage him to go-to-bat a least a few more times?” It is appropriate for your editor to focus on only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being many other possibilities out there.

He then chose to stick with his two appropriate “sub” yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Sub-bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

Again, these two retainedsub-bookends were: “Leave it in his hands” Too happenstance for circumstances;and “Request alternative Literary Agent” Would likely antagonize him and lose his support. You will note the italicized sub-detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these sub-bookends will now nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising sub-options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

He ultimately came up with six “sub-sub-options” – AAA thru FFF – after additional thought. Now he was positioned to pursue further emotional distancing beforehe proceeded with the outcome. From there he would be further positioned tomake an optimum choice on next steps…perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they are all quite relevant, your editor was now initially particularly intrigued by – Sub-sub Option BBB: Collaborate using Ken’s note, plus short book excerpt to circulate potential followers. The pictograph now offered some other potential optimum alternatives – keep sub-sub-option CCC in mind, too – for early consideration.He can also now consider pursuing these other sub-sub-options over time.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “Choosing the right moment for international travel in light of current Covid climate?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

Peel the Onion: What is my best option for continuing to enlist Ken’s – Literary Agent – optimum assist: by way of using Option Solving?

Your editor ultimately decided to pursue prior Option A to his question: ‘What is my best option for continuing to enlist Ken’s optimum assist?’  In fact, he subsequently secured that key Zoom discussion with Ken, so it was now vital to optimize the outcome of that interaction. With that in mind, he decided to “Peel the Onion” based upon Option A. Being well prepared for such a session would be key to reinforcing mutual respect, as well as obtain an optimal outcome.

Consequently, his new “Peel the Onion” question turned out to be: “Peel the Onion – What is my best option for continuing to enlist Ken’s – Literary Agent – optimum support : Option F – How to gain his full support for PR item plus GoFundMe effort at 2500 Followers, thru a phone call – considering 1) Covid hobbled publishers near-term, 2) need to re-enliven his enthusiasm, 3) he has likely scooped up other more promising authors during the meantime, and 4) encourage him to go-to-bat a least a few more times?” It is appropriate for your editor to focus on only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being many other possibilities out there.

He then set about creating two fresh appropriate “sub” yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Sub-bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His two most immediate sub-bookends that came to mind were: “Leave it in his hands” Too happenstance for circumstances;and “Request alternative Literary Agent” Would likely antagonize him and lose his support. You will note the italicized sub-detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these sub-bookends will now nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising sub-options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

He ultimately came up with six “sub-options” after additional thought. He was then positioned to pursue emotional distancing beforehe connected with his Literary Agent, so as to be well prepared for their Zoom occasion, which is a form of objective thinking. From there he would be further positioned tomake an optimum choice sometime after that …perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they are all quite relevant, your editor was now initially particularly intrigued by – Option DD: Seek his whole-hearted support for these two ideas or alternatives. The pictograph now offered some other potential optimum alternatives – keep sub-option AA in mind, too – for early consideration.He can now consider pursuing these other options over time.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “Subsequent Peel the Onion with Sub-option DD: Seek Ken’s whole-hearted support for these two ideas or alternatives?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

What is my best option for continuing to enlist Ken’s – Literary Agent – optimum assist: by way of using Option Solving?

It is important for me to continue enlisting maximum assist from my Literary Agent in order to get my book published. Time, significantly interrupted by Covid, has been stretched significantly. Maintaining his goodwill is of vital importance. I don’t have additional resources that I can throw at him to buy his support. The question is therefore: What is my optimum approach to enlist his continued support?

After certain deliberation the appropriate initial question appeared to be as follows: “What is my best option for continuing to enlist Ken’s – Literary Agent – optimum assist; considering 1) Covid disrupted whole process with ultra wary publishers, 2) he has many other fish to fry, 3) enthusiasm has naturally waned over time, and 4) am challenging him to go-to-bat once more?” It is appropriate for me to stick with only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being other possibilities out there.

I then set about creating two fresh appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep my intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

My two most immediate bookends that came to mind were: “Leave it in his hands” Too happenstance for circumstances;and “Renew whole cycle” Could be a long shot and don’t have resources.  You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now nudge my intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

Progress so far then demanded that I come up with at least five new realistic options, although I may ultimately come up with six after additional thought. I would then be in a position to pursue emotional distancing, which is a form of objective thinking, before making my optimum choice sometime after that …perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace my proposed options with any of your own.

While they are all quite interesting, I was now initially particularly intrigued by – Option A: Seek a phone discussion to review options. The pictograph now offered some other potential optimum alternatives for early consideration.I can now consider pursuing these other options over time.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “Peel the Onion: What is my best approach for enlisting Ken’s optimum assist?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

What is my best option for keeping book ‘followers’ involved until an initial publisher is secured: by way of using Option Solving?

My campaign to secure book “followers” continues with current build-up-the-numbers strategy. Since it’s taking time to secure a publisher, the question comes on how to keep existing followers “warm” and gain their assist for additional ones until a publisher comes through. With limited funds, it’s not possible to buy #s or buy support through high profile campaigns. Consequently it’s appropriate to revisit this issue once more, while things continue to evolve.

So now your editor now poses the appropriate question, which is as follows: “What is my best option for keeping book ‘followers’ involved until a publisher is secured; considering 1) likely to be a lengthy process, 2) keeping Literary Agent committed, 3) bringing sufficient creativity to the party, and 4) book timing is perfect in post-pandemic world?” It is appropriate for him to stick with only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being other possibilities out there.

He then set about creating two fresh appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive minds focused against mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His two most immediate bookends that came to mind were: “Let natural forces take over” Too happenstance for circumstances;and “Bring in outside money” Could be a long shot and take time.  You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

Progress so far then demanded that he come up with at least five new realistic options, although he ultimately may came up with six after additional thought. He would then be in a position to pursue emotional distancing, which is a form of objective thinking, before making his optimum choice sometime after that …perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they are all quite interesting, your editor was now initially particularly drawn to – Option D: Set-up post-summer “Follow” campaign with existing followers- Ken? The pictograph now offered some other potential optimum alternatives for early consideration.Your editor can then consider pursuing these other options as time moves on.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is my best approach for enlisting Ken’s assist?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

What is our political leadership’s optimum option for minimizing Covid’s impact: by way of using Option Solving?

There is a degree of political turmoil and hesitancy about how to proceed with the new, highly contagious Covid Delta variant racing through the population. There is a debate going on as how to contain its spread and deal with the economic fall-out. Your editor will now go ahead and complete an option solving exercise to share with the country’s political leadership to help it make an optimal decision.

Your editor now posed the appropriate question, which turned out to be as follows: “What is our political leadership’s optimum option for minimizing Covid’s impact; considering 1) new variants are highly contagious, 2) possibility of vaccine’s wearing-off potency, 3) resistance by some to vaccination, and 4) impact on economic recovery?” It was appropriate for him to stick with only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being other possibilities out there.

He then set about creating two fresh appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive minds focused against mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His two most immediate bookends that came to mind were: “Let Covid run rampant” Death rate politically unacceptable;and “Close everything down again” Could lead to world economic catastrophe.  You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now again nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

It then demanded that he come up with at least five new realistic options, although he ultimately came up with six after additional thought. Our political leaders would then be in a position to pursue emotional distancing, which is a form of objective thinking, before making their choice sometime after that …perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they are all quite interesting, your editor was now initially particularly drawn to – Option F: Quarantine all those who are not vaccinated for 10 days every 2 months. The pictographseemed to offer the most immediate promise for getting our political leadership’s input and attention, especially with regard to “other” possibilities. We can then consider pursuing the other options as time moves on.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is my best option for keeping book ‘followers’ involved until an initial publisher is secured?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

What is our best option for reaching Pandemic-struck UK once ban is lifted July 19th (?): by way of using Option Solving?

Faced with the challenge of trying visit family in post-pandemic UK, it was a question of reviewing all reasonable options to seek an optimum solution after July 19th, 2021– assuming the total ban is lifted at that time. This would act as a good spur for Linda to get involved in the decision.

The appropriate question then turned out to be as follows: “What is our best option for reaching Pandemic-struck UK once ban is lifted July 19th(?); considering 1) air prices are likely to skyrocket once ban is lifted, 2) we’ve both been fully vaccinated, 3) Robin desires my presence, and 4) Linda desires stepping-stone for European travel?” It was appropriate for us to stick with only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision, when the ultimate decision moment arrives: despite there being other possibilities out there.

I then set about creating two fresh appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep our intuitive minds focused. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

The two most immediate bookends that came to mind were: “Hold-off until things normalize” Could be a long wait + not getting any younger;and “Accept expensive air tickets, quarantine and testing arrangements” Likely beyond budget.  You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now again nudge our intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

It then demanded that we come up with at least five new realistic options, although we could ultimately come up with six after sharing with Linda. We would then be in a position to pursue emotional distancing, which is a form of objective thinking, before making our choice sometime after that …perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace our proposed options with any of your own.

While they are all quite interesting, I was now initially particularly drawn to – Option C: After ban lifted – buy best air tickets months ahead, when quarantine, etc, is likely lifted. The pictographseemed to offer the most immediate promise for getting Linda’s input and attention, especially with regard to “other” possibilities. We can then consider pursuing the other options as time moves on.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is my best option for keeping book ‘followers’ involved until an initial publisher is secured?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)