What is best way for Ralph to re-set personal relationship with former spouse: by way of using Option Solving?

Your editor’s friend Ralph from Eire is concerned about an apparent silence from former spouse during recent times; notwithstanding there are always ongoing normal needs and issues with their two sons also in Eire. Ralph has been constrained from visiting them owing to the Covid virus and continued spikes in that country – even though Ralph has been appropriately vaccinated. He has been chewing over his best course of action and decided to utilize Option Solving to indicate his optimum solution.

With that technique in mind, he put together his initial question as follows: “What is best way for Ralph to re-set personal relationship with former spouse; considering 1) they haven’t seen each other in a long time, 2) important to continue contact for sons’ sake, 3) circumstances may have changed for former spouse, and 4) she is maybe frustrated at his limited family interaction due to Covid?” It’s appropriate for Ralph to focus on only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being many other possible considerations out there.

Ralph was then encouraged to choose two appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His ultimate two bookends turned out to be: “Ride out the possible storm” May deepen the trough;and “Send some sort of contact ultimatum” May exacerbate the situation. You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put them out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

He ultimately came up with his six most realistic options” – A thru F – after additional thought. Now he was positioned to pursue emotional distancing beforehe proceeded with any outcome decision. He would then review these declared options, perhaps after 2 hours, later in the day, or first thing the following morning, before arriving at an optimal conclusion. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they all look quite relevant, Ralph was initially particularly intrigued by – Option A: Contact  her sister for advisory. Ralph decided he would sleep on it until the following morning and then act accordingly. He would stick with whatever option his intuition chose to avoid unhelpful confusion.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is Ralph’s best option to pursue with his sons, while he repairs personal relationship?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

What is my best date option for travelling to UK in light of Covid and health situation: by way of using Option Solving?

Your editor has been considering travelling to UK to visit his sons for quite some time, although has been constrained from making a decision in light of COVID trends-situation both in the UK and US. The current early October upward trend in both countries makes for sobering and cautious decision-making con.  It was therefore appropriate to consider his current range of options.

With that in mind, he developed a question as follows: “What is my best date option for travelling to UK in light of Covid and personal health situation; considering 1) current COVID trends in UK and US –Fall season(?), 2) don’t wish to end up spending money on 10 quarantine, 3) budget is tight and health issues, and 4) Robin-Simon want earliest date for him to visit?” It’s appropriate for your editor to focus on only four considerations to reduce the complexity of any eventual decision – when the ultimate decision moment arrives – despite there being many other possibilities out there.

He then proceeded to choose two appropriate yin and yang “bookends”,as these would help keep his intuitive mind focused against other mental distractions. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing our fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing concentration. We are mostly unaware of how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless we can keep it properly focused on such occasions.   

His ultimate two bookends turned out to be: “Postpone idea for 6 more months” Robin disappointment and age clock ticking;and “Set date come-hell-or-high-water” Get stuck with airfare and quarantine expense. You will note the italicized detractors associated with these least likely options, which therefore put these out of consideration. Even so, these bookends will now nudge his intuitive thinking into high gear to find more promising options – see ourLatest Worked Example.

He ultimately came up with his six most realistic options” – A thru F – after additional thought. Now he was positioned to pursue further emotional distancing beforehe proceeded with the outcome. From there he would be further positioned tomake an optimum choice on next steps…perhaps after 2 hours, later in that day, or first thing the following morning. You can replace his proposed options with any of your own.

While they all look quite relevant, your editor was now initially particularly intrigued by – Option F: Clarify health issue before making any decisions. The pictograph now offered some other potential optimum alternatives – keep option A: Monitor trends on daily basis for leveling indicator- UK government website in mind, too.He can also now consider pursuing any of the other options over time.

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area or contact him at peter@ileadershipsolutions.com .  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Our next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is the best way for Ralph to reset a personal relationship?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)