What is my optimum way for dealing with a colleague bad apple: using Option Solving?

It was a particularly painful conversation to listen to a friend talking about a work colleague who was constantly seeming to sabotage his team’s efforts. He was considerably emotional and annoyed at this person’s behavior. Your writer then suggested that he use the option solving format to draw upon an objective and optimum approach.

Since he was familiar with the format, he immediately set his rational faculties to work for drawing-up an appropriate question, to set his considerable innate abilities to work. His question turned out as follows: “What’s my best option for dealing with a colleague bad apple; considering 1) person has established themselves as indispensable, 2) (s)he has manager’s support, 3) (s)he keeps being disruptive with my group, and 4) my own people impatience doesn’t help?” He restricted himself to his top four considerations, even though there were several others, so as not to further complicate his final conclusion.

Now that his question was ready, he then set to work on two yin and yang “bookends” as extreme possibilities, so they would further focus his intuitive, decision-making mind on his most realistic options. Bookends such as these are vital for preventing people’s fertile intuitive minds from wandering and losing focus. We are mostly unaware at how powerfully valuable but foot-loose our intuition can be unless effectively focused.   

Bookends for this step turned out to be: “Let sleeping dogs lie” and “Just leave and go work somewhere else”: both of which were his least likely possibilities for the reasons given. But at least they would nudge him to consider and produce his most realistic options – see our Latest Worked Example.

He was then challenged to produce at least five realistic options, so as to stretch his range of possibilities as much as possible. In fact, we left open a sixth option, too, for him to mull over, in case he revealed another option within the next couple of hours. Feel free to review his five-six proposed options in our Latest Example, one of which was: “Option- B: Set-up meeting with our mutual boss to hear both sides.”

With his new, provisional “pictogram” now in place, he would be able to review, adjust or add to it over next few hours, while things were still fresh. He would then be persuaded to set aside some time for emotional distancing – a form of objective thinking – before making any choice…perhaps after 2 hours, later that day, or first thing the following morning.

Emotional distancing would allow his intuitive mind to sub-consciously ponder his five-six options and draw upon his many diverse experiences and choices; thereby arriving at an optimal decision. What option would you have chosen?

If you have an example of your own, please share it with this blogger, through the COMMENTS area.  Thanks Option Solving. (NOTE: Next posting will be in two week’s time: “What is my best approach for developing an internal-extended sales team?” Let’s have your COMMENTS or go to peter@ileadershipsolutions.com to connect with the blogger. Also consider buying the book: “Smart Decisions: Goodbye Problems, Hello Options” through amazon.com)

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